One of my favorite songs from the classic musical “The Sound of Music” was Julie Andrew’s “My Favorite Things.” As the lyrics say, ” I simply remember my favorite things and then I don’t feel so bad.” I learned a long time ago that being happy is a choice. Happiness doesn’t magically happen to people. … More 101 Ways to Be Really Happy: Step #46–Focus on Your Favorite Things
If you have ever been to a hypnotist, you know what a happy place is. Your happy place is the place you go to in your mind to relax, unwind, feel safe and happy. Your happy place can be absolutely any place you want and it can change from time to time. If you’ve done … More 101 Ways to be Really Happy: Step #45–Go to Your Happy Place as Often as You Can
Teaching people how to relax is what I do for a living. Here are some quick tips. A relaxed mind leads to a relaxed body, so try pursuits like hypnosis or deep, restful sleep to relax your body. A relaxed body leads to a relaxed mind, so try pursuits like yoga or massage to relax … More 101 Ways to Be Really Happy: Step # 44– RELAX!
Breathing might not seem like a route to happiness to you. After all, everybody who is alive is breathing, but not everybody is happy. The trick to breathing is to do it intentionally. I have an exercise on my youtube site that I call Integrative Breathing. It literally is one of my cures for anxiety. … More 101 Ways to Be Happy: Step #43– Breathe!
Whether you do pilates, or yoga or just plain old stretching exercise, stretching is good for the soul. Here are some ideas for making stretching a part of your daily routine: Pretend you are a cat and do cat poses. Take a yoga class. Rent or buy a yoga video. Try a youtube yoga video. Bend down … More 101 Ways to be Really Happy: Step #42–Stretch!
Be mysterious or eccentric for a day. Or flirt outrageously. And see who you attract. If you need to do this at a costume party, that’s ok. Sometimes it is easier for folks to be outrageous or intriguing if they are wearing a mask. That’s ok. The point is to take a spin at bringing … More 101 Ways to be Really Happy: Step #41–Tickle Someone’s Fancy
Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and dive off the cliff. Whether it’s a new job, new city, new friend, new experience or new relationship, sometimes you JUST have to try it on faith. Half the people who come to see me for hypnosis, have never tried it before and are skeptical … More 101 Ways to Be Really Happy: Step #40–Take a Leap of Faith
Let’s play a game. I’m going to list a word. Don’t spend too much time thinking about it. Off the top of your head, list the fondest memory you have associated with that word. Ready? Here we go: Dog Green Water Smile Hugs Sweating Peace OK, what did you come up with? Now take each … More 101 Ways to be Really Happy: Step #39– Re-enjoy your happiest memories
I’ve told this story many times in many settings, out loud and in writing. A child once cried out repeatedly to God to fix a favorite broken toy. Finally, the child begged, “God, I’ve prayed so many times for you to fix this toy. Why have you not heard my prayers?” To which God replied, “How … More 101 Ways to Be Really Happy: Step #38–Just Let Go
I can honestly tell you that the happiest times I’ve ever had in my life are the times I am giving back. And there are a zillion ways you can do that. Find ways that interest you and (a)schedule them on your calendar or (b) do them as random acts of kindness. Here are 10 of … More 101 Ways to Be Really Happy: Step # 37–Give Back to the Planet